Saturday, April 4, 2009

Get Your Ex Back Without Waiting Weeks

By Johnnie S Laney

Most of the books available on getting your ex back give the same advice. Wait four weeks or so and have no contact with them. Then call and see if they want to talk to you. The idea here is that after a month they won't be so mad and will be more willing to talk.

This approach is based on the theory that time heals all wounds. You know, when they dumped you they were upset, after four weeks or so they wont be mad anymore. Further, the hope is that they will feel more like forgiving you and will have started to miss you some.

The get your ex back by waiting 30 days approach can work in some situations. And it can also backfire. Your ex's anger can fester and their heart can harden towards you. And they might start seeing someone else, which will make it very hard to have them reattach their affections towards you.

To avoid losing your ex to another person, you may want to try a more direct approach. There are some immediate reconnect strategies that will often work to get an ex back in hours or days, not months.

How might this work if you cheated on your ex and got kicked out last week, as an example? Your ex is full of anger and betrayal and feels like they can't trust you ever again.

Well, to get them back, one of the first steps is to realize that feelings change. They are mad about a specific incident. They will get over it, maybe in a year or a month, they won't be that mad forever. But feelings change.

The second thing to understand is that you can help their feelings change. This is the key to getting your ex back fast instead of waiting weeks. You can help them to get over their negative feelings towards you. There are a couple of ways of doing this. One is with a certain kind of apology (yes, there are different kinds!) and another way is to let them vent or get the feelings off their chest.

Combine these two methods and you can often have a breakthrough in getting your ex back fast. They can release their bad feelings and start to move towards wanting you back. You can often get your ex back in hours or days if you apologize in a certain way and help them to vent their bad feelings. You don't need to wait months.

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